Marriage is a beautiful and sacred bond between two people. It is swearing eternal love to your significant other, promising to love them for better or worse, being completely truthful and open about everything. However, this ‘romantic’ notion of love couldn’t be further from reality. Every married person (or at least anyone that’s been through a few relationships) will tell you that revealing everything about yourself and your past to your significant other will eventually bite you in the ass. So, hiding things that do not concern your partner in the relationship for their sake can sometimes be a good thing. Ladies, here are the 15 things that your man will avoid sharing with you at all costs!
His Past Relationships
We all have baggage from the past and it is natural that most people, especially men, would want to leave the painful details concerning their ex-girlfriends right there where they belong. Even though some of them might open up about previous relationships if they deem their current partner mature enough, they will firmly keep their mouth shut on first sign of suspicion or jealousy from their girlfriend/wife. Men hate being judged by their past actions, so if you want to learn about them you need to be completely open, supportive and non-judgmental of all the crazy things he’s done in his youth.
Things He Dislikes About You
Any mature person knows that the saying ‘nobody’s perfect’ is very very true. We, of course, would like to think that we are the exception to this rule, but unfortunately that is not the case. Just like we put up with annoying things and habits about our partner, parents, siblings or friends, they make the same adjustment when it comes to us. Your spouse, however, most likely hates complaining and criticizing you as it induces stress in him, so most of the time he won’t address any issues he has with you until he comes to a boiling point. To avoid getting there, make sure that you regularly self-check your behavior and encourage your partner to give you positive criticism when needed.
Things He Dislikes About Your Parents
Men like privacy in their house, and even though we are sure he is okay with your parents being around from time to time, he will absolutely hate it if they try to interfere with your family life. If they drop by unannounced we are sure that he will probably act happy about it, but deep down he will be disappointed because of his ruined weekend plans. Making a polite chit-chat with his in-laws cannot possibly more fun than barbecue with the guys, or catching a game, but now he is forced to stay at home to avoid hurting your feelings. Can you really blame him for looking a little sad?
His Fears
Men are like the iceberg pictured above, the small visible part of it is what they show, and the rest of it is things they feel but would never admit to. In a big section of the invisible part lie men’s fears. They have been taught from early age that crying or being afraid is a sign of weakness and that ‘real men’ are tough. So, they learned to shove their fears into a tiny corner of their consciousness and will never speak of them. But, you should know that they are equally afraid and insecure as women when it comes to being alone or going through a hard time.
His Sexual Fantasies
It is more common than you think for men to dream of other women. They will never admit to this, but multiple women around the globe have been hurt by their husband uttering someone else’s name during sex. This, of course, does not mean that they want to or will cheat on you. Human psyche is an incredible and complex thing and we all sometimes dream of unattainable people such as celebrities. So, women you can relax because whether a man is open about his fantasies does not point in any way to trustworthiness.
Mistakes He’s Made In The Past
We all make mistakes and so does your husband. Whether he decides to share his past (and present!) mistakes with you, though depends on how well you receive them. Mocking your man about any wrongdoings on his end might result in him starting to hide things from you and resolving issues on his own. If you are the reason your husband hides things from you, then we are sorry to say so, but you are probably emotionally torturing him and causing him so much stress so he decided it is not even worth talking to you about any mistakes.
His Secret Account On A Dating Website
The internet age has certainly brought up divorce rates. With so many options out there, we can see why some men might find it hard to avoid the temptation of joining a dating site, and if nothing else, briefly pretend they are single and develop a platonic relationship with another woman. Of course, they will never admit to this, because it is practically cheating on their wives. As soon as the woman discovers that her man is entertaining the idea of sleeping with another woman, even if only harmlessly flirting, she will probably pack her bags and head for the door.
The Money He Spends On Other People
Men love the role of providing for their loved ones, so when they get a steady job they probably spend as much money on their friends, parents, and siblings as they spend on you. A lot of men are open about their financial dealings with their wives, but some of them prefer keeping the information of the exact amount spent treating friends out in bars or helping out a family member a secret. If you are interested in where his money goes, just ask nicely – he is probably not telling you because he finds the topic boring, or because he thinks you will disapprove.
He Has Trust Issues
Having trust issues is more a woman’s thing, but man have them too, especially those who have been stabbed in the back a time or two by previous partners. Feeling insecure to a certain extent is normal, we all fear losing the people that mean the world to us. However, if the behavior leads to overreacting about normal things and severe arguments, it might seriously plague the relationship. You husband will avoid admitting to his trust issues at all costs, possibly adopt a passive-aggressive approach, or just hint about a close male friend or a co-worker. To put his mind at ease, it is best to be completely open about everything and show him that you have nothing to hide from him.
His Secret Plans For Your Birthday
Birthdays are a big deal for ladies. Not only do we like it when someone surprises us with a nice gift, but we are also having very high expectations when it comes to our men. Since they aren’t quite as creative or resourceful as us when it comes to choosing gifts, they start preparing probably a week or two prior to your special day. He will never give you even the slightest hint that he is planning something big such as party, or spending hours searching for the perfect custom gift, but he will never disappoint you because he just wants to do what makes you happy.
His Exact Salary
Just like women hate being asked about their age, men hate being asked about their salary. They are happy you not knowing exactly how much they make. If they make less than you, they’ll feel embarrassed, and if they make more, your financial demands might go up, asking for unnecessary stuff. Them avoiding to share the exact amount is in a way a protection from both demands and embarrassment, though if you really want to know, we are sure you can easily find out by checking his bank statements.
Holiday Plans and Parties
You might be thinking ‘wait, what? he’d never do that!’, but it has actually become quite a common thing for men to attend, and even throw parties without discussing it with their wives first. Going on holidays apart could sometimes be a good thing, but if they have a work-related beach holiday that you aren’t aware of, this could indicate some trouble in paradise. If your husband has done this and you learned of it afterwards, it is best to confront him and try to understand if you have played any role in his decision to hide the party or holiday from you.
Habits That You Hate
Bad habits are a hard thing to tolerate and they can make your family life unbearable if they get out of hand. Regardless of whether your husband won’t quit smoking, drinks excessively when you go out, or won’t stop eating junk food, he is not going to change these self-destructive habits just because you told him so. Yes, he might quit smoking around you, drink only when he goes out with his friends, and eat fast food on his work breaks to avoid problems, but he still will be himself, with the only difference being that you won’t know about it.
Social Media Passwords
His Facebook timeline is filled with pictures of you and your kids, but you have no idea just what hides in his inbox. He may seem like a decent family person, but believe us, he is not. And this is precisely why he will never share with you his password. If you had the chance to read the conversations he’s been having with some girls, the photos he’s shared with them, or just the things he’s searched for, you’ll never look at him again with the same eyes.
An Affair
People cheat to get more excitement in life, to fulfill some emotional needs, or for purely physical reasons. Your man will never admit it, even if you catch him red-handed in the act. It is very likely that most of the time he’ll be the perfect husband to you and you won’t even have the slightest idea of his office or online fling. However, if you do notice some signs of an affair it is best to refrain from confronting him until you have sufficient proof as, we guarantee you, he will deny it like his life depends on it. Mostly because it does.
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